God is Not Your Boss

Let’s talk about bosses.

Here are three things I know about the typical boss/employee relationship.

  • It’s a pay for performance thing.  You are not on the payroll because you are nice; you get paid for services rendered.
  • It’s a transactional relationship.  You do this – you get that.  And the only reason you’re willing to do that is because you’re getting paid.
  • When you’re usefulness ends, the relationship ends.  It’s sometimes called downsizing, or rightsizing or a change in direction, but the relationship is temporary.

Sometimes, we like our boss.  But for most people, it’s an authority relationship we tolerate because of what we get.

But too many of us view God as our BOSS.

  • We think we get rewarded for performance.  Go to church, give some money, say your prayers…all of these things will keep God on our good side.  If we do more good than bad, God will reward and not punish us.
  • We try to keep it transactional with prayers like, “God…if you’ll help me here…I promise to…”  We do stuff for God…He does stuff for us.
  • We like God when He is useful to us, but tend to ignore Him when we’ve got better things to do.

This is dangerous thinking.

Instead of viewing God as our BOSS, we should view Him as our FATHER.  That’s a different take on authority, isn’t it?

God is our perfect, loving, heavenly father.  A father who loves us because we are his children, not because of our performance.  It is a relationship rooted in love, not in transaction.  It is a relationship that’s eternal, not temporary.

God doesn’t want to just be your boss.  He wants to be your Father.

I just released a book called No Matter What: Ten Lessons from a Father.  I wrote this book for my three kids, but figured other people would want to read the lessons I’m trying to teach them.

The title of the book comes from something I say to my kids as I put them to bed each night.  “I will always love you no matter what.”  My middle child (she’s 9 years old) usually follows with various “what if” scenarios.  Even if I spill chocolate milk in your truck?  Even if I tell a lie?  Even if I don’t follow God…I mean, I will, but even if I don’t?

I am not Emma’s boss and I don’t love her because she acts right.  I am Emma’s Father and I love her because she is my daughter.

In the first chapter of the book, I remind my kids they have TWO fathers who will always love them no matter what.  God is our perfect Heavenly father, and He loves us no matter what.

I’ve worked all of this into a 30-minute sermon, and I’d love to deliver it at your church.


In the message,  I unpack this Biblical metaphor and name for God, work in the Ten Commandments, and talk about the theology of adoption.  It’s a hope-filled message that lays out the gospel.  It’s brand new content, significantly shaped by my journey over the last few years.

I’m available to talk about other things, but I’m hoping to fill up my calendar with opportunities to talk about this message.  Maybe you need a fill in or a day off.  Maybe you want to do something special.

If you book now, I can get you copies of the my book right at cost.  You can give them as gifts or sell them at retail and cover costs.  It’s definitely not required, but if you’re interested, I’ll work it out for you.

Visit my speaking page or just send an email to mljr at me dot com and we can talk.

Stuff I Starred

Here is a list of a few things I clipped into Evernote, saved for later in Feedly, or favorited on Twitter.  It’s the 27th edition of Stuff I Starred.

  • Be brave enough to say ‘no’ to good things. – Alysa Bajenaru, @InspiredRD
  • “If it’s ‘all about the weekend’ then maybe it’s all about the pastor” @edstetzer
  • Five misconceptions about creativity from Story.
  • It’s my responsibility for people to love staff meetings.  – Jeff Henderson
  • drugs and alcohol are not my problem, reality is my problem, drugs and alcohol are my solution. – Russell Brand in The Guardian
  • In your business and perhaps your life, the tomorrow that you desire and envision may never come to pass if you do not end some things you are doing today.  – Henry Cloud, Necessary Endings
  • The Internet is only 25 years old.  Here’s some history.
  • Email is not for real time request.  Great article from 99u on when to text, email and call.

Today is the Day

A little more than a year ago, I started working on a project.

The process went something like this:  idea, notes, outline, rough draft, rewrite, reorganize, give up, start back, design, layout, rewrite some more, fix problems, proof, fix problems, proof again, tell people it’s coming fix a problem I missed, order preview copies, send preview copies, find a last minute error, release, relax.

Hemingway said there was nothing at all to writing.  All you do is sit down at your typewriter and bleed.  I didn’t write NO MATTER WHAT on a typewriter, but I understand the sentiment.

All that to say…THE BOOK IS HERE. Today is the official launch day for No Matter What: Ten Lessons from a Father.

Before I go on, here are the quick links.


I wrote this book for three people.  I know, not the best target market if you want to make a best seller list.  Plus, the intended audience of three got free copies.

That’s because I really wrote this book for my kids.

No Matter What Book

The book is a collection of ten lessons I want them to know before they leave the house.  The title comes from something I tell my kids as I’m putting them to bed:  “Daddy will always love you no matter what.”  Each chapter unpacks a truth-filled life principle.  There’s stuff about God, faith, money, friends, work and more.

But I wrote it with the hopes you would read over my shoulder and be inspired to teach your children these lessons.  If nobody buys a copy, I’m satisfied knowing I committed these lessons to print for my kids.  But I hope and pray the message resonates with others.

I believe every parent should read this book.

I think every high school senior or college student will benefit.
nomYoung adults, there’s something here for you.

Each chapter is built on a principle and supported with Bible lessons and personal anecdotes.  I talk about the prodigal son, and the time I got beat up by a girl.  I share words of wisdom from proverbs, and talk about the time we got in a car chase.

I hope it’s interesting, entertaining and insightful.


You can order a copy (or ten) from Amazon.

You can get it for your Kindle.

You can order directly from me and I’ll sign them.

I’ve even created an ultimate edition, which includes a signed copy, PDF and audio book (read by yours truly). Get that right here.


1.  Buy a copy. 

I know it’s little cynical of me, but we live in a day and age where people feel like they have supported a cause by tweeting about it.  I’m grateful for a tweet, but to tell the truth, buying a copy means so much more.

2.  Buy three copies.

I know…I know.  This is borderline greedy.  But if you’re going to buy a copy, can I ask you to bump up the quantity and buy a couple more for gifts?  Maybe another parent you know needs to read this.

3.  Buy ten copies.

Now I’m getting ridiculous.  But if you buy ten copies of the book, send me your receipt and I’ll send you something awesome.

4.  Share with your friends.

Tweet: Check out #nomatterbook from @mlukaszewski.  He wrote it for his kids, but you should read it.  http://ctt.ec/3LdAb+I am grateful for tweets, Facebook updates and anything else you can do to spread the word this week.  You can click the twitter icon to share with your friends, or you can copy and paste the text below into whatever social media platform you like.

Check out #nomatterbook from @mlukaszewski.  He wrote it for his kids, but you should read it.  http://www.nomatterbook.com.

5.  Leave a review.

Reviews on Amazon really help.  So once you’ve read it, I’d be honored if you would leave a review.  Here’s the link to the book on Amazon, where you can leave a review.


Here are some of the early reviews and buzz about the book.

Reading No Matter What is like listening in on a personal conversation between a father and his children. Michael covers some of life’s most important and urgent issues— unconditional love, standing up for what’s right, faith, delayed gratification, hope and even comparing ourselves to others—and handles them with wit, humor and salient insight. – Carey Nieuwhof, author of Parenting Beyond Your Capacity

Michael Lukaszewski’s book, “No Matter What” is page after practical page of rich encouragement to parents; more specifically, fathers. It’s message echoes my heart with the words that I sometimes fail to speak to my children. The book features ten bite-sized truths that Michael believes will produce a children who’ll grow up into mature, grace-filled, adults full of virtue. This book truly blessed me and I highly recommend any father to read it! – Pastor Ashton, from Amazon Review

No Matter What is practical, witty and entertaining. Michael’s conversational writing style is easy to read and you can just picture him sharing these stories with his three children. He communicates essential Biblical principles that every parent needs to know and share in today’s crazy, fast paced world. – Karen Stubbs, founder of Birds on a Wire

Why Do Most Staff Meetings Stink?

Have you ever sat through a meeting and thought, “Why am I here?”

Do your meetings lead to a lot of talk and only a little action?

If you sent an email to your team saying the next staff meeting was optional, how many people would attend?

Most team meetings aren’t effective because they don’t focus on what’s important.  Your rarely have time to talk about the mission, vision, values and long-term strategy because you’re responding to what happened last week.  You don’t spent much time talking about how to improve your product because you’re responding to last week’s crisis.

We had the same problem. Then we learned about this meeting rhythm,  adjusted it for our setting and implemented it.

And it made a huge difference.

Meetings That Matter

Here is an overview of the meeting strategy we used at The Rocket Company.

1.  It started with an ANNUAL RETREAT. 

We went away for 2 nights and 3 days for annual planning.  The first day was spent looking back.  We reviewed the numbers and talked about how close we got to our goals.  We shared lessons learned and talked about wins and losses.  We didn’t rush though this because looking back is what locked in those learnings.

On day two, we looked forward.  Our goal was to come up with 3-5 annual priorities – big things we should accomplish that would make us better.  We threw up dozens of possibilities we thought were worthy of company-wide focus, and then whittled them down.  After we had priorities nailed down, we set goals.  Our goals match our business strategy, so we already had categories set.

2.  We stayed on focus because of the QUARTERLY RETREAT.

Once we had the annual direction set, we came back every quarter and focused on it.  In my opinion, this was the secret sauce.  The quarterly retreat was one day shorter, but it was just as important.

We looked back on the last quarter and talked about wins and losses, then we looked ahead to the next quarter.  The power comes from taking our annual objectives and assigning a quarterly priority.  Essentially, we took the big goal and broke it down into something we could accomplish that quarter.  One annual objective, but four quarterly steps.  Our team left this retreat knowing what we were going to do in the coming months.  Not only was the meeting focused on what was important, we left knowing how to focus on what was important.


The monthly meeting was the third part of this rhythm.  We spent one day together focused on the quarterly objective.  You can see how we drilled down our big picture annual objectives to the day to day.  This kept us focused on what’s really important, not whatever is now.

At the monthly meeting, we reviewed last month’s numbers and progress and we talked about where we were in relation to our quarterly objectives.  We discussed one or two big items that pertain to the quarterly objective.  We came in prepared and left focused.

4.  The WEEKLY MEETING was mostly for calendar and communication.

We still gathered the team weekly to go over what’s on the calendar, but we keep this to one hour each week.  We printed our annual priorities, company goals and quarterly objectives on the agenda.  This kept the important stuff in front of us each week.

This is the system we used at The Rocket Company and it helped us connect our company mission and strategy to our team meetings.  While you might need to adapt it, I believe a system like this could work for your organization.

I’m Stepping Out. What’s Next?

Last Friday, I stepped down as CEO of The Rocket Company.  There were no arguments, no shenanigans, and nothing bad happened.  I know some people will there’s something going on behind the scenes, but this really is a good thing.  Henry Cloud calls it a necessary ending.

For three years, I’ve created coaching programs and written resources to help churches succeed. But God is stirring something in my heart, and it’s time for a change.


I’m going to focus on helping organizations on a personal level – consulting or coaching or speaking.  I’ve had a blast creating digital resources, but I’m looking forward to getting my hands dirty.

Here are a few ways I might be able to serve you in this next season.

  • My friend Shawn Wood and I are doing a five-month coaching network for churches trying to grow past 500 people.  It’s limited to just 15 leaders (registration opens today) and you can find the information here.
  • I’m going to consult with a few select organizations.  Over a period of six months, we’ll identify 2-3 big problems, and then work hard to fix them.  If you need help with leadership, growth or strategy, I’d love to help.  Just contact me if you’d like to start a conversation.
  • I’m going to speak more.  Whether it’s a stand-alone message for your church, or a leadership talk for your group, I’m excited about helping people this way.  You can visit my speaking page here.


The Rocket Company is going to keep doing great things, and the team there is ready for what’s next.  I’m looking forward to working on some content projects, and will remain an advocate for their resources.  I’m excited about what’s next for me, but I’m excited about what’s next for them. If I can serve you in any way, please reach out.

Five Favorite Tweets

Here are five of my favorite tweets from the last week.

  • “If you chop your own wood, it will warm you twice.” -Henry Ford via @BenArment
  • If we are free from everything and everyone, then life has no ultimate meaning. Real Love is the greatest freedom-loss of all. – @timkellernyc
  • There are 2 elements in the economy of our lives that are scarce…trust and attention. – @B_REWSTER
  • Christians have two major memory problems: We forget what we should remember; and we remember what we should forget. – @johnalanturner
  • Little known words spoken at the last supper… “Okay, everyone who wants in the picture get on this side of the table.” – @scottrjones

You can follow me on twitter here.

Three Things Every Leader Needs

I love helping leaders.  And I’m blessed to be able to work with so many great leaders.

And it’s awesome to see leaders in so many areas of life – in the home, in the workplace and in the church.  Here are three things every leader needs.

Three Things Every Leader Must Have

1.  Purpose

Most organizations know what they do.  A few can articulate how they do it.  But very few know WHY they do what they do.

That’s what Simon Sinek says in Start with Why. (one of my top five books for leaders, by the way)

This isn’t just a business principle – it’s something for every leader.  Before you build a list of action steps or hire people or do anything at all – you need to come to grips with the purpose behind it all.

There’s a good chance you inherited your purpose – either from your parents, or from culture, or from the immediate need in front of you.

Before you do anything, you need to know WHY you’re doing it.  Uncovering the true driving force will provide a lot of clarity on any decision.  If you can take the time to clarify the WHY, the WHAT will become much more clear.

2.  People

In addition to a clear purpose, you need people around you.  You might be able to accomplish more than the average person, but without a great team around you, you will never be able to do all you were meant to do.

“Give a great idea to a mediocre team and they will mess it up.  But give a mediocre idea to a great team, and they will pull it off or make it better,” writes Ed Catmull, the President of Pixar in Creativity, Inc.

Nearly every great accomplishment happened through a team.  Take the light bulb, for example.  You credit Thomas Edison for that invention, but he had a whole team of people working on that project.

Whenever you see someone win a prize, know there is probably a team equally deserving of praise.

One of your most important jobs as a leader is to build a team of people that is smarter than you.

3.  Plans

On Sunday night, we huddle as a family to talk about the schedule.  Between tests, chorus, baseball, tennis, lacrosse and two birthday parties, the week looked pretty full.  Honestly, we were stressed before the week even got started.

Now every family has weeks like this from time to time, but this was becoming normal in our house.  One day, we made an important realization.

Our schedule was driving our plans, not the other way around.  We need to let OUR plan as parents dictate the kids schedule, not just accept everything as fact and go with the flow.

There’s nothing wrong with tennis, chorus or lacrosse (though I don’t fully understand the rules), but if those activities don’t help our family fulfill our purpose, they are distractions.  All to often, we just accept things, refusing to understand we’re really in control.

Any knucklehead can set goals.  It’s the hard work and the everyday step you take that sets you apart.

  • I know a lot of people who want to be better parents.  What’s your plan?
  • I know a lot of people who want a better marriage.  What’s your plan?
  • I know a lot of people who want to get out of debt.  What’s your plan?

It’s great to set goals, but what you need is a plan.  They won’t appear out of thin air; they require intentional thought and focused discipline.

The People You Admire Most Were Failures


Fear-of-failureThere are some heroic characters in the Bible.

  • Moses, the guy who parted the Red Sea and got Charlton Heston to play him in a movie.
  • Peter, the man who has the most famous church in the world named after him
  • David, the man after God’s own heart.

But most of the people you admire in the Bible were miserable failures.

  • Moses, the guy who murdered an Egyptian and tried to cover it up.
  • Peter, the guy who cussed out a teenage girl in order to forcefully deny he knew Jesus.
  • David, the adulterer and murderer.

The same people were both failures and heroes. And they didn’t become heroes until they were first failures.

It is an act-one story of misery followed by an act-two story of redemption.

Woven throughout the pages of Scripture is this story of grace.  A God who doest just forgive, but forgives and restores.  He isn’t just a God of second chances, but third, fourth and fifth chances.

This is part of the reason you admire these people so much. You know they did great things, but what’s inspiring is they did great things after doing awful things.  The riches are more impressive when you consider the rags.

Why do we love these comeback stories so much?

Because deep down, we want to hope.

We love the redemption stories, because there’s a good chance we’ll be in one.  Maybe we’ve already been featured in one.

By all means, admire and emulate the heroes in the Bible.  But never forget that most of them were sinners before they were saints – murderers before they were missionaries, and miserable failures before they got chapters in the Bible.

When God Leads You Into Struggle

There’s only one nation on earth that can legitimately claim to be God’s chosen people.

Sorry, it’s not the United States.

It’s the nation of Israel.

The land flowing with milk and honey.

The promised land.

A nation that began when an old man and his wife had a son – a nation that came into it’s homeland by walking on dry ground through a miraculously parted Red Sea, was made great through one of the most interesting plot twists in history.

You know Israel because of what made her famous.

But Israel became great during a period of national struggle.

Genesis 46:3 gives us a glimpse when God speaks to Joseph:  The he said, “I am the God, the God of your father.  Do not be afraid to go down to Egypt, for there I will make you into a great nation.”

You see, the nation of Israel wasn’t made great when God gave the 10 commandments, or when David beat Goliath.  Israel’s greatness was built during the darkest part of her history.

The greatness of Israel was forged in the fires of Egyptian slavery.

God promised to make Israel into a great nation, WHILE LIVING IN EGYPTIAN BONDAGE. When God told Joseph to seek relief from a famine in Egypt, He knew the nation would prosper there, only to be oppressed by a new Pharaoh a few years later. God sent Israel into the fire.

And it was the toughest of times that led to prosperity.  Years of slavery were encouraged by God, because they would become the backdrop for His deliverance.

To this day, when Jews celebrate passover, the remember life in Egypt.  Chroset is a mixture of chopped apple, walnuts and red wine.  It resembles bricks and mortar, reminding the Jews of the hard work forced to endure as slaves.

Hard labor, encouraged by God,  helped made them into a great nation.

We think it’s the successes in life that make us great, but it’s actually what we become during times of struggle.

If you are going through tough times, take a little comfort in knowing it’s these tough times that can actually make you great.

Just like the nation of Israel.

Where Did Your Dream Go?


Are you working to fulfill your own dream or someone else’s?

Chances are, the work you are doing is helping someone else free up their time, increase their bank balance or follow their heart.  You’re a chess piece in their game.

You’re doing the work.  They are reaping most of the blessings.

Don’t get me wrong – you’re thankful for the job.  You even like some of the people at the office.  It’s not totally miserable. But deep down, you know you are working hard to fulfill someone else’s dream.

After all, if you’re not willing to work for your dream, someone will hire you to work for theirs.

So, where did your dream go? Why are things the way they are?

1.  Some dreams are buried by budgets.  

My friend Ben shared a quote from Nassim Taleb.  I wrote it down and it’s never escaped me.  “The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates and a monthly salary,” he said.

I wonder if our unfulfilling jobs, providing an adequate cover for our lifestyle, are the very things keeping us from fulfilling our full potential. And I wonder if finding that sweet spot wouldn’t produce even more income in the long run.

A salary is great.  But a salary is also safe.  It can keep you from dreaming.

I’m not an advocate of betting the farm on a long shot.  I don’ think it’s wise for you to quit your day-job to pursue an unfunded passion.

But what if you lived on 80% of your income for a couple of years and banked the rest?   What if you started something on the side and saved all of the money?  You might have to work early or work one extra day a month, but I bet you could generate something extra.

What if you took control of your income instead of letting your salary dictate your lifestyle, and put a plan into place that would energize your dreams instead of kill them slowly?

2.  Some dreams are caged by fear.

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do?  Would you start a business?  Write a book?  Would you launch out on your own?

Fear is a powerful thing.  It robs our future by whispering loudly in the present.

Fear tells you to stay on the shore because it’s dangerous out on the open water.  That the comfort of your current paycheck is worth a few more years of regretful wishes.

Fear is a powerful thing, but if you don’t act, I wonder if the corresponding regret won’t be bigger.

It’s true it might not work, but fast forward a decade and think through the ramifications of staying where you are.

William Shakespeare wrote, “ There is a tide in the affairs of men, Which taken at the food, leads on to fortune.  Omitted, all the voyage of their life is bound in shallows and in miseries.  On such a full sea are we now afloat.  And we must take the current when  it serves, or lost our ventures.”

Fear is a very real thing.  But may we be more afraid of never trying than trying and failing.

3.  Some dreams are washed away by time. 

The rare and powerful dream gets stronger with time.  But it’s far more common for a dream to die a slow and subtle death.

It was there long ago, but it’s a distant memory now.  Days became months and months became years.  The kids are older and the bills are larger – now is not the time to try something risky.

But peel back the layers, and I bet your dream is still there.  It’s a sleeping giant ready to be awakened.

Go for a walk, read an old journal or take time to remember.

Remember how excited you were about that new idea.  Sure, the timing or technology might have changed by now, but the dream is still there.

Remember what you drew on the napkin.

Remember the late night conversation you had in the living room.

Remember the prayers and the talks and the dreams.

You can’t go back in time, but you can remember and learn from the past.

So where did your dreams go?  Have they been buried by budgets, caged by fear or washed away by time? If money were no option, what would you do?  Feel free to leave a comment and dream out loud.

It’s safe to dream here.

Five Important Things You Should Do Today


It’s hard to tell the difference between the important and the urgent.

Those urgent things seem to take all your time, leaving you little energy left to do what’s really important.  Managing this tension is one of the most important things you can do as a leader.

The battle won’t be won with a huge air attack, but with a daily ground war.  There are little things you can do today to put the urgent stuff in its place and do important things to truly make your life better.

Here are five important things you can do TODAY.

1.  Say thanks to someone.

They say gratitude is an attitude, but that’s crap.

You might feel thankful, but that’s not enough.  You actually have to say thanks for it to make any real difference.

One of the best ways to do this is sit down at a table and write three thank you notes.  You can do this today in about 15 minutes.  It doesn’t have to be a poetic novel.  I’m talking about a simple note of thanks.

I make a recurring to-do item on my to-do list that simply says “thank someone for something.”  Each day this pops up, I write a note or send a gift to someone.  Sometime, I have to think for a minute or two, but there’s always someone I can encourage or appreciate.

2.  Give something to someone.

You have a friend or neighbor or co-worker who needs something you have.  Maybe it’s a tangible item.  Maybe it’s your time.  Maybe it’s a connection to someone else.

But you have it and it would mean a lot to someone else.  Letting go of stuff is one of the most freeing things you can do.

A friend of mine recently cleaned out his closet and took five bags of clothes to Goodwill.  Not only is their life simpler and a little more clutter-free….they were able to help other people.

Another friend of mine is starting a brand new church, and told me how blessed he was to receive a financial contribution from a stranger.

If you have more than you need, consider giving something away.

3.  Think about your life goals.

New Year’s resolutions are dumb.  Yearly goals are too-short term.  You need something bigger to anchor you.  You need life goals.

Fast forward your life 30 years and think about where you will be. Then backtrack and write some life goals.  These are major, awesome, and lifetime achievements.

Setting life goals is one of the first things I talk about in this free email series called Organize Your Life in 21 Days.  It will really help you  (and it’s free).

4.  Be honest about something.

Living a double life is exhausting.

There’s something going on in your life, heart or world that needs to come into the light.  It might be a secret or it might be a fear, but if you can be honest about it, you will be healthier and happier.

Honesty does something for the soul.  And relationships where you can be totally open are life-giving.

5.  Work on something that matters.

We all have to do work stuff that doesn’t fulfill us.  It’s just the way it is.

But find as much time in your schedule to work on something that really matters.  That’s a sweet spot, and it will bring you real fulfillment in work.

Maybe you have a message that others need to hear.  Maybe you have a book in your heart.  Maybe you have a dream to start something of your own.

If it’s a big, huge, audacious thing – just do something small today.  Push it forward, even if it’s just a few inches.  Progress comes in little doses then jumps forward suddenly.

I’m working on something to help you bring this to life and can’t wait to share it with you.

Three Staff Meeting Ideas for You and Your Team

Staff Meeting

Ever sat through a pointless staff meeting?

You meet because a meeting is on the calendar.  You debate and discuss with no real outcomes.

It doesn’t have to be that way.  You can step out of the ordinary and meet to work ON it.  Here are three staff meeting ideas for your next team meeting or offsite.

1.  Six by Six

As leaders, the urgent often pulls us away from the important.

But it’s even easier to get pulled away from what’s important if you haven’t taken time to identify what’s important.

You can’t focus on what you don’t identify.

That’s where a 6 x 6 comes in.  In Axiom,  Bill Hybles, the Senior Pastor of Willow Creek Community church, asks it this way:  ”What is the greatest contribution I can make to the Willow Creek community in the next six weeks?”

He narrows the list to six projects and pours his energy into those over the next six weeks.  Once the time is up, he does it it again.  This allows him to focus on what’s truly important.

There is great personal value in this exercise. But it’s also a great exercise to do with your team.

In your next staff meeting, take time to discuss what are the six most important (not urgent) things that should happen in your organization in the next six weeks.  Make a list and whittle it down through debate and discussion.

2.  What is Good, Bad, Missing, or Confusing?

You’ve heard of the good, the bad and the ugly.  This is similar.  It just happens in a meeting and not in the wild west.

In your next meeting, answer these four questions about your organization.    These questions can help you create an honest assessment.

  • What’s good in our organization?  What about each department or team?
  • What’s bad in our organization?  What about each department or area?
  • What’s missing in our organization?  You can get specific with different areas here, too.
  • What’s confusing in our organization?  Website? Processes?

Let each person give feedback on the overall organization, but you apply the same questions to specific areas.  Do this, and you’ll build a realistic picture of where you really are as an organization.

Jim Collins says great leaders confront the brutal facts.  Be honest in your assessment.

3.  Core Value Checkup

Every organization has core values.  Some just write them down and talk about them more often.  Others have well-written core values that don’t ever show up in the everyday activities.

But what happens down the hall is far more important than what hangs on the walls.  So this meeting is all about comparing the two.

This assignment is simple, really.   Write down your core values on one side of a sheet of paper or on one side of a dry erase board.

Then, as a team, assign letter grades.  Encourage honesty and receive feedback with grace.  Don’t rush it.

As you evaluate, you’re not evaluating the core value itself, but how it’s fleshed out in your organization.  Look at your last big event, your last newsletter and your last activity.  Identify any gaps between what you say is important and reality.

As a follow up, you could talk about action steps and how you plan to close the gap between desire and reality.

For more about how to connect your meetings to the purpose and mission of your organization, watch this free training video.  In it, you’ll learn the actual meeting rhythm we use at The Rocket Company.

Why Non Profits Should Act More Like Businesses


In this post, I talked about two ways businesses should act more like non-profits.  Today, I want to talk to those of you in the non-profit world.

First of all, I love what you do.  You’re helping, serving and making a difference.  You’re focused on people and want to solve problems.  You get into this because you were called or compelled to do something that truly matters.

But too many times, we can break fundamental business rules and still be successful.  We think our passion and our mission trumps the rules of life.

This is rarely the case.

Those of us in the non-profit space still need to be good business people.  We still have to lead, strategize and deal with financial issues.  If we don’t do these things, we’ll go out of business and our passion will be left by the wayside.

If you want your non-profit to be successful, don’t abandon your passion for helping and just run a business.  But add good business sense to your passion.

Here are three ways non-profit leaders should act like business people.

1.  Invest in your education.

One of the favorite emails I’ve ever received came from a pastor who was responding to one of our coaching programs.

The program was called Giving Rocket and it’s designed to help pastors raise money throughout the year.  Thousands of churches have increased regular giving by 10, 20 or even 40% using these tools.  They really work and there’s a long track record.

The program costs $99 a month for 12 months.

This particular pastor apparently couldn’t stomach that high price so he sent me this email…

$99 a month!? I can’t afford that….send from my iPad

Ironic, isn’t it?

I laughed out loud on that one.

I’m not debating whether the program is expensive or not…that’s not the issue.  The issue is worth and value.  If a pastor isn’t willing to invest $99 a month into getting their entire church financially healthy, then we’re not going to be able to help.

It’s a broke mindset.

Sadly, a lot of non-profit leaders think like that.  And it leads to a perpetual problem.

Yes, there are lots of dollars wasted on coaching and training.  If you fall into that boat, you just picked the wrong coach or the training was no good.

As a non-profit leader, you must invest in your business.  You must invest in yourself.  Zero investment leads to zero improvement.

Walk Disney said, “I never know where I’m going to get my next great idea.”  He knew great ideas can come from anywhere.  That’s why you need to be in learning environment and have different experiences.

Stop trying to “pick the brain” of some other struggling but passionate philanthropist.  Pay for coaching.  Invest in education – both for yourself and your team.

2.  Invest in your business.

Not only should you invest in yourself, you should invest in your business.

This means you’ve got to view your cause as a real business, not just a side project or an unfunded passion.  Don’t let the broke mindset lead you to search for the cheapest alternative.

The cheapest is rarely the best.

Listen to this TED talk from Ted Palotta about investing in fundraising dollars.  It’s one of the most brilliant perspectives on raising capital, but the principles he shares go beyond fundraising.

If you want your non profit to make a huge difference, you need to invest in it like a business.

One of the things we tell churches is to send quarterly contribution statements and vision-filled communication to their donors.  Most churches only do this once a year, because that’s what the government says.

We know that if you appreciate and communicate with your donors, they will be more inspired to keep participating.  Investing in this segment of people is always worth it.

But it’s amazing how few churches do this, because they don’t see immediate return or don’t want to pay for the cost of postage.  It’s short term thinking and it hurts over the long term. 

3.  Pay people what they are worth.

One of my first real jobs out of grad school was at a local church.  I was hired to oversee the student program and the educational system at the church.

I was newly married and we didn’t have kids.  I made a really low salary, but everything was fine because I was doing important and meaningful work.

When my wife got pregnant, I realized the math wouldn’t work.  I went to my boss to ask for a raise.

“It was always my job to get you up to what a school teacher make, but it’s gonna take several years,” he told me.

At that point, I knew I couldn’t live on passion alone.  If it would take years to get up to the level of one of the most underpaid positions in America (teachers should all make six figures, but that’s another blog post), I was in trouble.

I ended up leaving that job. 

If you want to invest in your business and build something that can help a ton of people, you’ve got to recruit good people.

It’s hard to attract top talent with bottom barrel pay.

Yes, there are people who will take less money to do something that matters.  Yes, there’s more to job satisfaction than a pay scale.   But passion for the cause isn’t an excuse to rob people of what they are worth.

Those are three ways I believe non-profits should act more like for-profit businesses.  What would you add to this list? 

Why Businesses Should Act More Like Non Profits


I’ve always loved business.

Someone told me if you want to know what you’re really passionate about, think back to what you did when you were younger, when budgets and expectations didn’t limit your thinking.

My young businesses included mowing lawns, creating neighborhood newspaper and selling subscriptions and ads, and creating a homemade bank to keep track of friends money.

In my post-college years, I sold Beanie Babies on the side of the road and started a summer camp for teenagers.

In 2005, I moved to Atlanta to start a different kind of a business – a non-profit, local church.  Today, I work with a for-profit organization that coaches and resources a lot of churches.  In the Venn Diagram of for-profit and non-profit worlds, we’re right in the middle.

So life always involved starting and running some kind of business.

All of this has led to a driving belief that businesses should act more like non-profits and non-profits should act more like business.

I’ve met highly-driven business people who seemed to miss the point.  And I’ve met struggling humanitarians who couldn’t live on passion.  The perfect combination of success and happiness lies somewhere in the middle.

How Businesses Should Act More Like Non Profits

Making is money isn’t enough.  Providing for your family isn’t the ultimate goals.  And a successful company isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. You can make the INC 500 List and run a big company and miss out on the best life has to offer.

1.  Pursue profits with a purpose.  

There’s nothing wrong with making money, but making money in itself is empty success.  Non-profit organizations are driven by purpose, not profit.

Without a deep why, accolades and bank accounts won’t truly satisfy. Your soul really is more important than your stuff.  If your happiness comes from a balance sheet, your sense of self-worth is shallow.  If you drive your team to produce more and more, you’ll ultimately drive them to self-preservation.

Profits aren’t bad.  They just aren’t enough.

Failure to grasp this concept will lead you to make a living and miss a life.  Let me dig deeper and ask a few questions.

  • What’s your quality of life?  We can get so focused on our standard of living that we forget about quality of life?  What are you really working for?  What are you trying to prove?  Who are you trying to please?
  • What good are you really doing?  It’s great that you’re building something big, but are you building something important?  What lives are truly better because your company exists?
  • How are you sharing success with your team?  Are you helping your employees fulfill their dreams or are you just employing them to fulfill yours?

Finding a deep purpose isn’t just for the philanthropic – it’s good business.  And you don’t have to be a non-profit or operate with a one-for-one model like TOMS shoes to find a deeper purpose.

A business that does good is good business.  Helping people is a good business plan.

2.  Give employees more than a job.

Non-profits do a great job connecting the purpose and the mission to everyone on the team.  Whether it’s a staff member or a volunteers, people know why they do what they do.  Yet in the business world, most employees come to work to get a paycheck.  They don’t have a sense of purpose or see how their daily tasks connect to the overall mission of the organization.

Uninspired employees may get the job done, but they will not help build a great company.  If you want to build a powerful team, you’ve got to give your team more than a paycheck.  You’ve got to give them a purpose.

People say knowing what they do matters and liking the people they work with are the two most important factors that contribute to job satisfaction.  These two things rank higher than salary and benefits on nearly all of the surveys.

Do your employees love coming to work everyday?  If they do, it’s a sign that they have more than a job.  But if they hate Mondays, they are just putting in time and cashing a paycheck.

In the next post, I’ll talk about ways non profits should act more like businesses.  Stay tuned.

Join the No Matter What Launch Team

No Matter What by Michael Lukaszewski

I’m about a month away from releasing my book, No Matter What: Ten Lessons from a Father.  I’ve self published before, but this is my most important work to date.

It’s a book written to my three kids, but I wrote it knowing you would read over my shoulder.  My hope is that it helps you impart important life lessons to your kids.

I didn’t write this book to become a famous author.  Which is a good things, since publishers probably wouldn’t like a target audience of three people, all under the age of 12.

I spent a year working on this project – filling the pages with stories and principles.  I hope it’s entertaining and helpful.

So it’s time to release it and I need your help.

Starting today, I’m taking applications for the Launch Team.  A group of people to help spread the word and get this message out there.  As a launch team member, here’s what you will get:

  1. A electronic copy of the book delivered in PDF format.
  2. A signed copy of the physical book.  You’ll get it before everyone else can buy it.
  3. Much thanks!

As a member of the launch team, here’s what I will ask you to do.

  1. Leave a review on Amazon.com sometime before April 29, 2014 (that’s launch day).
  2. Tell your friends, family members and co workers, especially on April 29.

My goal is to sell 5,000 copies of this book.  I don’t know if that sounds like a lot to you, but it’s a lot to me.

I’d be honored if you would help.  Just fill out the form below and I’ll email you more details.