- Take some time off. Summer is a great time for a family trip or a vacation (yes, those are different).
- Invite some people over to your home. Maybe some volunteers, or key leaders or a group of donors. A summer cookout or a little low country boil is fun.
- Let other people preach. You don’t have to give the youth pastor the Sunday after Thanksgiving – be an overachiever and give him two weeks in a row. Bring in a guest speaker while you’re at it.
- Plan for the fall. With the free time you’ll have from not preaching every week, look ahead to the fall.
- Have fun with your family. You don’t have to spend a bunch of money to have a fun day in your town.
- Talk about automated, recurring giving. Even though people might be out of town, they can still give. You just have to show them how and ask them to do it. This will help.
- Go visit another church. Sneak out for a Sunday and go visit another church in town. Or go hear your favorite preacher in person.
- Read something you wouldn’t normally read. Maybe something from history or the latest non-history history from Dan Brown.
- Do something fun with your staff. Your staff needs some relaxation, too. How about a staff and spouse trip to the baseball park. Or a corn hole tournament in your front yard.
- Have some intentional conversations. Go meet another pastor for coffee. Hire a leadership coach. Meet up with some key leaders in the church just to talk about life.
From now until Tuesday night, you can get 20% off any and every resource on my resource page. Simply enter “twenty” (without the quotes) at checkout, and you’ll get the discount. You can use this on any single resources or any combination of resources.
- Docs and Forms is probably the most downloaded resource – more than 200 church leaders have grabbed this in the last 9 months. It’s the perfect way to create healthy systems (and the summer is the perfect time to work ON your church, not just IN it.)
- Reach will help you invite more people to church. It’s got a training video, and eBook and tons of documents, samples and sermons. You’ll get press releases (free advertising!) and two complete campaigns.
- Inspire is all about volunteers. I used to say that our church was driven by God but fueled by volunteers. I wrote down everything I know about finding, training, inspiritng and keeping volunteers.
- Next is all about follow up. You’ll learn how to follow up with guests, givers and brand new Christians. In addition to coaching, I’ll give you plug and play tools to jump start action.
- Bible classes come with student guides and teaching notes and they are the perfect way to launch a few classes in your church. There’s Intro to the Old Testament, Theology 101, and Start Here (for new Christians.)
- Ten Minute Training for Core Groups is my newest resource for church planters. It’s a series of 7 videos designed to show your core group or launch team. It comes with discussion guides. It’s plug and play core group meetings.
- Organize Your Church in 30 Days is a highly practical eBook that will give you 30 actionable items to get your church organized around the mission.
All of these resoures are 20% off until Tuesday night at midnight. Grab one or grab as many as you like. Be sure to enter the code “twenty” at checkout.
I heard Andy Stanley once say that sermons without systems won’t lead to life change. Sure, sermons are important, but without a systematic plan to move people into community, sermons will just become information over time. Like pipes in a wall, systems and structure is the vehicle that takes passion and translates it into life change.
That’s why I’m such a believer in organizing the church. The mission of the church matters, so the church should be structured in a way that makes sense.
A Pastor named Paul said this:
“I’m three days into this resource and already it’s a game changer. Thanks for producing such high quality and immediately applicable resources!”
He’s talking about this resource. It’s my new ebook called Organize Your Church in 30 Days.
Here’s a little more if you’d rather watch than read.
On the surface, everything looked great. I had planted a successful church and we were reading 750 people after one year. I a picture perfect church and a picture perfect family. I had twitter followers and conference speaking gigs were starting to come in.
But under the hood, things weren’t right.
I allowed our 12-year marriage to become all about our kids. They didn’t run the schedule, but I eased into the role of father and subliminally pushed the role of husband down the list. I began to see Jennie as the mother of my kids rather than my wife. We moved to Cartersville with a three week old and began a church planting journey. When we launched the church, our third child was one month away. I went to work while Jennie stayed home with the kids. There’s nothing wrong with that arrangement in general, but there was for us.
We also stopped having fun together. Not having hobbies was a fun twitter admission, and the ensuing discussion turned into a nice sermon illustration, but not having any hobbies was a serious issue. I’m more convinced than ever that reading leadership books and leading a church cannot be all a person does. I needed fun things to do, and I needed to be able to do them with Jennie.
These two things put a strain on my marriage, and the pressures of planting and then leading a successful church didn’t help. People have affairs when they perceive something else to be better than the life they are currently living. It wasn’t just the excitement of the unknown; it was the dissatisfaction with my current state.
We didn’t need a marriage conference; we needed a babysitter so we could go out and have fun. We didn’t need cards on pastor appreciation day, we needed friends to invite us to things. I didn’t need another leadership conference, I needed to be honest with a group of friends who could not fire me.
Maybe it was the desire the keep up appearances, fear of letting people down, or the embarrassment of needing counseling, but I didn’t talk about these problems. I chose to avoid them. A friend and member of my advisory team once encouraged me to go talk to someone, but I blew him off and kept doing my own thing.
My marriage was broken because I was broken and didn’t seek help. Church planting didn’t kill my marriage. It wasn’t ministry that was the problem. The problem was me.
In the last six or seven months, I’ve learned a lot of those things and I’m going to write about a few of them in the coming weeks. I’m not going to write about everything, and I’m not done learning, but here we go.
I don’t know why exactly I feel the need to clarify this, but here goes…
A couple of months ago, me and my family moved to Atlanta. We’ve got our kids in a new school and we’re really enjoying city living.
But I did NOT move here to start a church, and I don’t have any plans to start another church. I’m not working on anything, raising money, or networking. Right now, I’m focusing on my faith and my family, and we’re attending church.
I recently started working with Giving Rocket, and I’m fired up about this opportunity. I don’t know exactly what I do – it ranges from writing to organizing to producing – but I enjoy it. I’m grateful to Casey and his family – He’s become a good friend to me over the past few years, and especially over the last few months. While I have no desire to be on a stage or get credit for anything, I care about the local church and want to help behind the scenes.
I believe in what Giving Rocket is doing to help churches fully fund their mission, and I’m excited about helping launch some new things in the coming year.
I have intentionally disconnected from church planting in general and Oak Leaf in particular. I’m working on myself and my family. But I’m not living under a rock and am aware that Oak Leaf Church has changed it’s name.
I’m not going to lie…knowing that the red leaf has been erased, the colors have changed, and the book is closed is very hard for me. My wife compared it to the scene from Harry Potter when Hermione erased the memories of her parents in order to protect them from Voldemort. It was for their own good, but it was still sad. We’re both happy and sad when we look back on our six years in Cartersville. I’m a sentimental person – I remember the first song ever sung (Salvation is Here) and giving out an iconic leafy award to a volunteer probably meant more to me than it did to the recipient. I’m proud of the fact that Oak Leaf Church was a real church for real people. Ironically, I turned out to be the kind of person the church was started to reach.
As a lead pastor, I loved navigating an organization through change, planning, strategizing and communicating necessary changes. On the other side, I realize just how hard it is. More than any other time in my life, I see just how hard change can be. This change is hard.
As I look back on the journey of starting Oak Leaf Church, I’m proud of all that God did, despite my sin and shortcomings. I am reminded how God anointed and used Saul, despite the fact that he consulted witches (see I Samuel 28). And Saul’s successor David was a grievous sinner, yet was still known as “a man after God’s own heart.” As I read the BIble, I see that Jesus intentionally surrounded himself with sinners and set them on the road to recovery. While “friend of sinners” was a nickname given by the Pharisees to take a dig at his associations, Jesus was never afraid to associate with people who didn’t have it all together. I did many things wrong in Cartersville, yet God still saw fit to build a church focused on reaching messed up people. I will never understand the sovereignty of God, but I trust beauty will rise from ashes, both in Cartersville and in my own family.
Not that West Ridge needed my permission, but I agree with the decision to change the name. Just like we needed to move from Cartersville in pursuit of a fresh start, the people of Oak Leaf Church needed a fresh start. I am sad, but I still understand. I have not and will not point the finger of blame at anyone for my actions. It’s better for alignment, branding, and most of all, a heart-felt desire to “do over.”
I am grateful for several friends who texted me the morning the name change was announced to say thanks and affirm the blessings of God in the past. I am grateful for the people I know and care about in Cartersville who believe that the mission is still important. And I am grateful for the leadership of Brian Bloye and the entire West Ridge team. They have been gracious and wise.
Should anyone from the Cartersville campus stumble across this, please know that I trust Brian and West Ridge completely. While some things deeper than the name will certainly change, the heart to reach people for Jesus will remain the same. While the leaf may be gone, the heart for the people of Cartersville is not.
A few people from Cartersville have emailed to ask where they should go to church now. My answer is “West Ridge Cartersville.”
A lot has happened over the last few months, and I wanted to take a few minutes to update my friends and family. I know a lot of people are praying for me and my family and we really do feel the effects of your prayers. I have intentionally kept quiet on the Internet about my personal life, because I’m working on restoring what’s closest to me first, before branching out. That means working on my relationship with God, my relationship with Jennie, and my family…in that order.
I wanted to start with those close to me and then expand the circle outward – that’s the reason for much of my silence on the issue. I have written a lot of thoughts that I will share sometime, but only after I’ve had all the face-to-face conversations that I need to have.
With that said, here is a bit of what’s been going on.
- With the help of my pastor, my church, and the ministry of City of Refuge, I’m working on being a Christian, husband and father.
- I’m learning a lot about forgiveness, love, repentance friendship and trust.
- I have had conversations with some people, but there are still many people that I want to talk to face to face.
- We have moved from Cartersville, but are still living in the Atlanta area.
- I’m doing some freelance writing and small business consulting. I’m thankful for the work, and the knowledge that my family is okay during this time.
- We have been working with a great counselor. Not only do I have a new respect for professional counselors, it’s really been a huge help. My counselor has helped me be honest about a lot of things – with God, with myself, and with Jennie. I really wish I had gone to counseling much earlier in life and marriage.
- Through City of Refuge, I’m a part of a small group of guys and my wife is a part of a small group of ladies.
- I have intentionally disconnected from Oak Leaf Church, for the good of the church and the health of everyone involved. But that doesn’t mean that I’m not proud of all that happened and don’t pray for the amazing people there. I will always love Oak Leaf Church and I’m thankful to God for allowing us to be a part of launching the church. I’m also grateful for the leadership that West Ridge has provided.
- A lot of people have asked about future church plans or ministry endeavors. God is a God of grace and I believe in restoration, but now isn’t the time for those things. I’m waiting on God to write the next chapter. If you know me, you know that waiting is hard. But it’s the right thing to do right now.
- I am intentionally working on developing healthy friendships. Most of the time this means being a friend expecting nothing in return.
- God has taught me a lot of stuff, but again…I need to understand more them before writing or talking about them.